When a Narcissist discards you, they never expect that you will survive or even thrive without them. They want you to stay stuck and keep hoping for them to come back. But when you stop hoping or chasing the Narcissist, this is when they start looking back and wondering to themselves if they made the right decision leaving you.
But don’t get it twisted; their regret is not out of remorse for hurting you; it stems from a self-centred loss, not compassion. Remember, when they walked away, they wanted you to fall apart. They expected tears, chaos, maybe even begging. But if you instead go silent and focus on your healing, and things eventually turn around for the better, the Narcissist is the one who starts feeling the loss.
So, in today’s article, we’re diving into what really makes a Narcissist regret leaving you—and we should all know it has nothing to do with love.
Narcissist Regret.
If a Narcissist has recently discarded you and you are struggling to get over it because they seem to be flying high and enjoying life without you, just know things do not always go to plan, and the Narcissist can end up wanting you back. So, I will be going over three things that can make them second guess the choices they made concerning you.
Move On.
And the first thing that can make a Narcissist regret leaving is if you appear happier without them, because it is a sign that you have moved on. It will irritate them knowing that you are no longer down and out or dependent on their approval. You may have found a new love who actually values you, or you have managed to outgrow the Narcissist and become financially or emotionally independent. You may have finally got that job you’ve wanted or started a course to develop yourself. Whatever it is, the fact is that your happiness, confidence, or success will make them envy you once more, and they are likely to want to reinsert themselves back into your life just to prove they still have some sort of power over you. Because the last thing they want is for you to thrive after they are gone. And that is why your healing, recovery, success, and also not allowing them back into your life is like the biggest revenge on a Narcissist.
New Supply Fails.
The second thing that can make a Narcissist regret leaving you is if the New Supply Source fails them. Let’s face it, narcissists always have multiple sources, and the reason they left you is that they already had a replacement in the wings. But when this replacement falls short in any way (and they will), the Narcissist will start reminiscing about what they had with you, as this new relationship may prove to be too difficult, or they realize they had more control or comfort with you. But also, because many Narcissists are so image-conscious, this new supply may not complement their lives as they thought it would and actually make them look bad in comparison to you. In the end, the grass was just not greener on the other side, and now they want to come back to you. They have not changed; it is more about image management or being low on narcissistic supply, not emotional connection.
No Contact.
The third thing that can make a Narcissist regret leaving you is if you go No-Contact. This is something a Narcissist is usually not prepared for because even though they let you go, they don’t ever really let you go. They usually want to remain friends or be able to keep tabs on you, as they still want to have you as a source of narcissistic supply, even if it is just to provoke or manipulate you. They also want to be able to compare their lives with yours. So, when they are blocked out of your life, not knowing where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing, it can drive them crazy and even make them obsessed with finding you or finding out about you.
And that is something I explained in this article, where I shared what Narcissists get up to when you truly go no contact. I expose all the strategies and tricks they get up to in order to find you or lure you out from where you are.
We have to remember that Narcissists have many games they play to get what they want; we just need to be familiar with their antics.
Final Thoughts.
To conclude, a discard is not usually the end of the Narcissist; that is why it is best to go no contact if you can and focus on your own healing and development. The Narcissist does not love and is not capable of having a healthy relationship with anyone. They will never recognize your worth, so it is best to move on, consider yourself as the one who got away, and don’t ever let them back into your life.
