Today, I want to focus on the female narcissist, as I believe her behaviors differ slightly from those of the male narcissist, especially when it comes to aging.
Also, not all female narcissists are a slender size six. Some are on the heavier side. Additionally, not all are top-model good-looking either. So, please keep that in mind. Narcissists, including female narcissists, come in all shapes, sizes, and ages.
Age is a major factor for the female narcissist. Because the older a female narcissist gets, the meaner she becomes. She becomes overbearing, power-hungry, and demands respect. If she is still married, her husband would be in submission to her and would honestly be living in fear of her.
As the aging female narcissist’s youth and beauty fade, she becomes ever more envious and jealous of the young women around her. So, she tries to control the young women around her to ensure they respect and fear her. Having power and control in her later years is what keeps the female narcissist thriving. Having dominion over her household and whatever groups or organizations she is affiliated with is what keeps her going in those later years.
Some of the aging female narcissists who depended a lot on their physical appearance to manipulate and get what they want—when their youth and beauty start to fade—don’t let go of it without a fight. Because of their vanity, aging gracefully is not an option. Wrinkles don’t lie, so they will try to conceal them as best as they can and for as long as possible.
Appearance is still of utmost importance to this type of female narcissist. And although she may not be as young as she was before, she will try to maintain her looks and be as beautiful as she can. If it means more makeup, so be it. If it means surgery, so be it. If it means more elaborate wigs or hairstyles, then so be it. Her money will be spent on the upkeep of her appearance more than ever before.
Many female narcissists teach their children to compliment their appearance from a very young age, and these children continue this behavior into adulthood, also teaching their children to do the same. I have met a few elder narc ladies in my lifetime, and they never liked me. Back then, I didn’t know why, as I hadn’t done them anything wrong. The younger ones are just envious. They pretend to be nice, but I can tell that for one reason or another, I am not their favorite person. They always knew I was different, even when I didn’t.
But I think the aging female narcissist has a very strong presence. Maybe it’s because of the many years of carrying around all that negative energy and evil within. For those who are sensitive to the spiritual side of things, the evil or malignant force behind the aging female narcissist is easier to detect.
I also think that because of her age, she becomes more reckless and insensitive in her behavior and thinks she can get away with it. She has a stronger sense of entitlement and wants to destroy anyone who goes against her. The children who have flown the nest and haven’t subjected themselves to her tyranny and manipulative ways will be looked down upon and considered ungrateful.
The aging female narcissist does not miss a step. Her manipulative ways do not subside. Her hunger for control increases. With her age comes more trouble for those who dare to cross her path.
