Today, I’m going to talk about the five scariest things about the narcissist. Okay, let’s dive right in.
1. The narcissist is not who you thought they were.
When you first meet the narcissist, you think they’re a nice person. You think they have empathy. You think they have heart. You think that they’re genuine. You think they’re just like you. But as the relationship goes on, you start to see the wickedness in that narcissist because of all the devaluation that goes on, how they put you down. When you start to argue with them, they are wicked about it. They fight below the belt. They are not who you thought they were. They are not a
nice person at all.
So one of the scariest things about a narcissist is that they portray to be this nice person, but they’re cruel and wicked. And why are they cruel and wicked? Because one of the scariest things about a narcissist is they have no empathy. So what does that mean? That means when you are suffering, maybe you’re sick or you’re going through something difficult, that narcissist is going to be cold and ruthless. That narcissist is going to leave you for dead.
2. The fact that you trusted the narcissist with your personal information.
You trusted this person. You told this person your vulnerabilities because you thought you could trust them, right? But later on, you find out that they betrayed you. They went behind your back. They smeared you to everybody. They divulged your personal secrets to everybody. They used whatever you said to them against you. So in a sense, you trusted the devil. You trusted a demon who was working against you.
3. They need control.
So that narcissist is going to try to control your life. What you do, where you go, what you say. You’ll be walking on eggshells. You will have no peace with a narcissist because of their constant need for control. They are nitpickers. They will pick on everything. They’ll pick on everything in the house. They’ll pick on what you say, what you do. They’re going to turn you into a nervous wreck. They’re going to break you down mentally and make you an emotional wreck. And not only are they going to try to break you down mentally, but this is going to have a drastic effect on your physical health.
People who have been with a narcissist for a certain amount of time, they start to have health issues, serious health issues, autoimmune diseases, heart issues, high blood pressure, cancer, a whole host of different health issues because of this narcissist and the stress that they put you under because of the narcissist’s constant need for control.
4. The fact that they could drop you like a piece of trash after you put your whole heart into the whole relationship.
They could just discard you like you are nothing. They could pretend to care about you, but really secretly hate you and out of nowhere, they could discard you coldly, maybe block you, or just disappear on you. Or they could cause a reverse discard and just make your life miserable to the point where you can’t stand it anymore and you discard them.
So out of nowhere, you get discarded, and you’re left in a state of shock, like what just happened… because you thought that this person really loved you, really cared about you, and then all of a sudden they don’t care. They blindsided you.
5. The fact that narcissists seek revenge.
Narcissists don’t just let go, forget, and move on with their lives. That narcissist wants to see you suffer. The scariest thing about a narcissist is that they’re sadistic. They actually want to see you hurt. Because the narcissist, when you say something they don’t like, you do something they don’t like, or they just get sick and tired of you, bored with you, they have it in for you, and they secretly hate you and they want to destroy you. So they’ll try to seek any kind of revenge on you. They’ll also try to destroy you because deep down, they’re secretly jealous and envious of you.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Now, I’m going to throw in one more, a bonus one for you. Why is the narcissist so scary?
And this is a big one. They’re so scary because of all the gaslighting that they do, because that narcissist is going to cause you mind damage to the point where you think that you’re crazy. That narcissist is going to blame shift everything onto you and make you out to be the bad guy. And they’re going to consistently do it till you get to a point where you start to question yourself and think that you’re the toxic one. You may start to think that you’re the narcissist.
I get people who come back at me all the time and say to me, “Am I the narcissist?” Maybe I am too much. Am I the narcissist? Maybe I am too sensitive. And no, I mean, the narcissist has confused you so much to think that you are the problem because of all the gaslighting, calling you crazy all the time, saying you have mental issues, and the fact that they never take accountability. And they twist the truth, they twist the narrative, and they make you out to be the villain, the bad guy.
They’re scary because they change your mindset. They give you cognitive dissonance where you no longer know what truth is. They, in a sense, brainwash you. They brainwash you to make you think that you are the problem. Now, why is this so scary?
Because a lot of people end up becoming depressed, getting anxiety, taking anti-depressant pills, going to a therapist, and they break down mentally. They have an emotional breakdown, mentally thinking that they were the problem in the relationship or that they are a problem in general. The narcissist breaks you down and makes you think that you’re not good enough for anybody because they’ll say things like, “Oh, nobody wants you.” Or, “You’re a problem.” Or, “I see why your ex treated you the way they did. You have mental issues.”
Suggested Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
So what’s that going to do? That’s going to make you feel sad, depressed, think that there’s something wrong with you, and really bring you down. It’s going to destroy your whole self-confidence, your self-worth as a person.
Understand that narcissists can be extremely damaging. They can damage you. They could be dangerous. They could seek to hurt you. They could stalk you. Some of them, especially if you’re dealing with a malignant narcissist, could try to physically try to hurt you as well, which could be very, very scary. These are the cases, the crime stories that you see on Dateline in 48 hours. So, for all these reasons, this is why we say you need to distance yourself from the narcissist and get out. Get out because nothing good comes from being around a narcissist.
