Today’s topic is simple but very important to grasp. Do not just hear it, but apply it, live it, breathe it. Some people want to know how to get revenge on a narcissist or how to make the narcissist pay for what they’ve done. After all of the evil that they have put you through, you may want to see them suffer. But the narcissist’s ultimate punishment is knowing that you are happy without them. Because whether or not they discard you or you discard them, you still matter to them, and they want nothing more than to know that you are unhappy.
After a discard, the narcissist puts on a show to convince you and others that the problem was you, why the relationship did not work out. They want to declare to the world how happy they are now without you, and it’s all a show. The narcissist is so caught up in the love bubble that they think they found their soulmate, unaware that the narcissist’s every expression of love and adoration to them is double-sided. The first motive is to secure this new victim as a source of supply, and secondly, to make you suffer, which provides them with further narcissistic supply. In their twisted minds, they are already confident that you are suffering because they are happy, and that’s what they want.
So when reality actually declares differently, they are left confused. When a narcissist discards you, if you were not prepared, it may have come as a surprise. You may mourn the loss a bit, but realize that they have done you an absolute favor because now you can truly be happy. They want you to feel salt and miss them, but the ultimate revenge would be to live as if they never existed.
If you discarded a narcissist, they will be looking to destroy you. So go no contact and live as if they never existed. Whether you travel, take up a course, start a new relationship, or something simple like coffee and chatting with friends, once you live, laugh, and love, anything that screams progress will make your ex angry and jealous. They will Hoover you like never before. They want to get back close to you so that they can be up to date with what’s happening with you, in hopes only to destroy you. So keep your distance and don’t ever let them back in.
When, from snooping around, they realize that you do not care about them anymore, that you are progressing without them, it cuts them deep because, in their minds, you don’t have the right to be happy or move on without them. So keep living! Enjoy your time with family and friends. Travel, improve your spirituality, and get closer to God. The smallest thing you do that brings you joy is another bullet to the heart for the narcissist. You see, narcissists pretend to be happy, and that is why they hate people who are truly happy.
When the narcissist is away, it’s time to play! Enjoy your life and better yourself in every way. Thanks for reading!
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